It is my 40th birthday this Saturday.

I will be in Disneyland with my family. As George Bernard Shaw said: “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”

Long after I booked the trip, I went to Pinterest and saw that I had a board called VisionBoard from 3 years ago.

One of the photos on the board was that of Disneyland Paris. I am always surprised when I create something that I envisioned in the past and then forgot about:-)

If designing a life vision is something you are interested in, my 6-week coaching program VisionPath starts on 5th June!

The program’s objective is to clarify what you want in your life, business and career. This is the only time I will run this program in 2023.

To mark my big O birthday, I thought I would share with you 40 life lessons from my 40 years. Let’s go!

  1. Do not resist reality. Accept it, change it or move on.
  2. Do not cling to a good experience. Just enjoy the moment without worrying about its transient nature.  
  3. When you feel bad, do not trust your thinking.
  4. Uncomfortable emotions are not the enemy. They are the warning mechanism that we are misusing our thinking. Just like physical pain alerts us that something is wrong in our body.
  5. We are not afraid of the future. We are fearful of reliving a painful feeling from our past. Cleaning up stored pain sets us free.
  6. The ultimate freedom is the ability not to think when you don’t want to.
  7. Telling the truth is always easier in the long run, and being yourself pays more.
  8. People are doing the best they can.
  9. When you talk to people’s wise, loving, happy selves, those selves show up.
  10. Listening is often a better gift than advice.
  11. Pursuing ego-driven goals is a waste of time. (My TEDx topic).
  12. Vision is one of the coolest tools I know to create the life you want.
  13. That said, if your vision gets antiquated, it can become a trap. Be more committed to being in flow than to any old vision.
  14. Spaciousness allows you to access the creative force. It is a fun place.
  15. Let go of the need to feel right, wronged or superior.
  16. Busyness is laziness. 20% of your efforts will yield 80% of your results. Identify this 20%.
  17. Health, love, work and play are interlinked like communicating vessels. You cannot reach a higher level of success in any one area than in the rest. Just like the water cannot reach a higher level in one vessel than in the other communicating vessels. This has been one of my most controversial breakthroughs, but once you see it, you cannot unsee it.
  18. You cannot love others more than you love yourself.
  19. All there is, is now.
  20. The easiest way I have found to stay in the now is to travel.
  21. You can deal with what is in front of you right now. You are not very good at dealing now with what may happen in the future.
  22. You choose your environment; your environment shapes your thinking, and your thinking creates your experience. Choose your environment wisely.
  23. This, too, shall pass.
  24. Life feels easy when you are creating your own path. It feels hard when you are trying to follow someone else’s steps.
  25. Your food affects your mood. Balance your blood sugar.
  26. Sleep and move your body. You will be happier.
  27. What you appreciate, appreciates.
  28. Ageing is the aggressive pursuit of comfort. Keep learning, playing and expanding your comfort zone.
  29. Our true nature is happiness. Babies are happy when their physical needs are met.
  30. Success is often an exercise in subtraction rather than addition.
  31. Become so good they can’t ignore you. Follow what you enjoy doing and give it love, time and attention.
  32. The lonely genius is a myth; you can achieve a lot more by collaborating with others.
  33. When you feel a strong, consistent pull to do something for the sake of it, do it.
  34. If you are having fun with what you are doing, there is no way to lose.
  35. Be the change you want to see. Especially in your relationships.
  36. Book the celebration before you hit the milestone. Enjoy.
  37. Everything you spend from a place of alignment makes you richer – Melanie Ann Layer.
  38. The best investment is in yourself.
  39. You often need to say no to something good to make space for something better.
  40. “You are already a completely whole, perfect person… The only thing that can keep you from enjoying all that you already are is a thought. One thought, your thought. Not someone else’s thought. Your thought.” Mavis Karn

OK, as always, hit reply and let me know which resonated.

Take care,


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